bring on the flames I feel like venting so I don't care.

I'm 30 years old, I have 2 kids, a 5 year old named Chloe, and a 2 year old named Leila. I was married for 8 years.

Around July of last year (close to my birthday and our wedding anniversary) my wife started sleeping with another man. When I found out, she simply kept doing it in front of my face, she would simply leave the kids with me for the weekend and go fuck him to her hearts content. I was in between contract jobs at the time and on unemployment and had no way to do much about it, as she was on the Lease. Finally I got enough money to move out, and she moved in with him with my kids.

She immediately went to the attorney general, and denied me from seeing my kids untill I signed that I would pay child support.

The good job I had, I had a huge falling out with my boss (who is also family, and had a huge falling out with my family, but thats another story)
is gone and now I'm stuck delivering water bottles for $500 a week.

My child support is well over a 100 a week, my rent which is actually stupid low, is $600 a month, and I still owe court costs from the bullshit with the attorney general, and my credit is ruined from bailing on the apartment we had in middle of the lease, among other things, she also rushed off and filed her taxes before me claimin both kids (that i supported the majority of last year) and didnt give me a cent. now I owe the IRS $600.

I live in her hometown cause I used to be out of town all the time so we thought it best for her to be near her family, now I'm stuck here if I wanna have a life with my children away from all my friends and my own family.

Every time i get paid, i'm broke by the next monday. I literally own nothing, she took everything. The only thing I own is my falling apart pt cruiser that likes to overheat and go dead, and my aging gaming pc. I'm falling behind on child support because they screwed up and didnt draft it out of my check a few weeks, and might go to jail for that pretty soon. I'm now juggling paying back court costs, back child support, and the IRS, plus all my normal bills. She just picked up the kids and my 2 year old cried the entire time reaching out for me and repeating 'no daddy', and it pretty much ripped me apart. I'm really struggling to make it day by day. I don't know what to do I feel like I'm sinking in a hole and there's no way out. We tried to reconcile a month or so ago, and she even came so far as to move out and move in with me, and literally started crying over him immediately, and ran back to him a few hours later, taking my kids from me a second time. my 5 year old
all but had a panic attack when that happened.

flame away

shitty situation man .. i feel bad for you.

im full of what i think "good advice" is, but the thing i've learned about advice is that people never listen and end up doing things their own way any way. so i wont try giving any advice.

best of luck to you. it will get better eventually. it might get worse first.. but it will get better.
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if everything you're saying is pretty accurate, i hope you realize that if you ever do reconcile with your ex, the chances of her doing this all over again with someone else(or the same person) are probably extremely high.

im not saying dont get back with her. just be prepared to go through all of this shit again if you do.
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wow dude that really sucks, I don't understand how she was able to get custody after being adulterous though, you definitely got screwed there. courts usually would go with the partner who didn't cheat. I went though a custody fight that started the year before last, i know they can be very very difficult, I was lucky enough to come out alright though, even not having been married. But yeah its the worst feeling in the world when your kid gets taken away, that happened to me and I had no idea where he was, it was very scary.

talked to a lawyer (not that i could afford one) who told me in texas, im pretty much out of luck getting custody in any way shape or form. adultery means she was a bad wife, doesn't affect her being a good mother, she said no judge in this city would give the father custody, unless i had something like video proof of her doing drugs or something.

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Originally posted by Allstar
bring on the flames I feel like venting so I don't care.

I'm 30 years old, I have 2 kids, a 5 year old named Chloe, and a 2 year old named Leila. I was married for 8 years.

Around July of last year (close to my birthday and our wedding anniversary) my wife started sleeping with another man. When I found out, she simply kept doing it in front of my face, she would simply leave the kids with me for the weekend and go fuck him to her hearts content. I was in between contract jobs at the time and on unemployment and had no way to do much about it, as she was on the Lease. Finally I got enough money to move out, and she moved in with him with my kids.

She immediately went to the attorney general, and denied me from seeing my kids untill I signed that I would pay child support.

The good job I had, I had a huge falling out with my boss (who is also family, and had a huge falling out with my family, but thats another story)
is gone and now I'm stuck delivering water bottles for $500 a week.

My child support is well over a 100 a week, my rent which is actually stupid low, is $600 a month, and I still owe court costs from the bullshit with the attorney general, and my credit is ruined from bailing on the apartment we had in middle of the lease, among other things, she also rushed off and filed her taxes before me claimin both kids (that i supported the majority of last year) and didnt give me a cent. now I owe the IRS $600.

I live in her hometown cause I used to be out of town all the time so we thought it best for her to be near her family, now I'm stuck here if I wanna have a life with my children away from all my friends and my own family.

Every time i get paid, i'm broke by the next monday. I literally own nothing, she took everything. The only thing I own is my falling apart pt cruiser that likes to overheat and go dead, and my aging gaming pc. I'm falling behind on child support because they screwed up and didnt draft it out of my check a few weeks, and might go to jail for that pretty soon. I'm now juggling paying back court costs, back child support, and the IRS, plus all my normal bills. She just picked up the kids and my 2 year old cried the entire time reaching out for me and repeating 'no daddy', and it pretty much ripped me apart. I'm really struggling to make it day by day. I don't know what to do I feel like I'm sinking in a hole and there's no way out. We tried to reconcile a month or so ago, and she even came so far as to move out and move in with me, and literally started crying over him immediately, and ran back to him a few hours later, taking my kids from me a second time. my 5 year old
all but had a panic attack when that happened.

flame away

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yeah my mom died when i was 12, and was the only real family i was ever close to, me and my dad don't get along, he just tells me to suck it up and get a job he doesn't wanna hear my shit. Most of my family won't accept my calls. They've been telling me to get away from her for years but for some reason I didn't listen. Now its all shaking their heads and i told you so's and you shoulda never married her and got her pregnant. I have a few high school friends I've remained in contact with but they live many hours away now and have families of their own to deal with.

wow i'm glad i didn't live in texas, i'm in south carolina though which is still pretty backwards but fortunately the judge gave me primary custody, which we recently turned into a 50-50 arrangement.

Good luck finding another or better job. Money sounds like the first barrier in all of this.

im surprised a lawyer told you that. you might consider talking to a few different lawyers. nothing wrong with taking advantage of a couple free consultations.
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yeah also feel free to pm me if you need any advice, i had a really good lawyer so i learned a good bit about how the court systems work and how judges make their decisions

and yeah like terror said you might want to get more opinions from different lawyers, the first one i went to basically told me what you were told, and the next one i went to thought i had a case with everything i told her about the situation

Properly different in america but here in new zealand you can apply for legal aid to help out with court costs if you are on a low income..

Sad thing is, males get fucked over regarding kids. You are treated like a criminal while the female gets all the rights automatticaly assumed. It really is bullshit and many counties need change for pro fathers.

Texas sounds alot like Florida as far as custody goes.
There's almost no way they will separate a child from mother.
I'd take Sarx's advise and move on.

Thanks for the sobering reminder to never get married or have children.

Wow. Pretty shitty situation. Glad i don't live in the US.

Looks like your first point of conduct is get a better job. I can't say much about other things since i have no idea how things go there reading all of this, but one thing's for certain. Don't ever let her come back.
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Wow. Pretty shitty situation. Glad i don't live in the US.

Looks like your first point of conduct is get a better job. I can't say much about other things since i have no idea how things go there reading all of this, but one thing's for certain. Don't ever let her come back.

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Well i did not read it like that. I read it like he did not act on her cheating at the time? To which there can be numerous reasons. People do very strange things when they're desperate.

But in any case, its not like i will get offended if he does not listen, it's been said few times in the thread, i feel it's good to say it once again.
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" We tried to reconcile a month or so ago, and she even came so far as to move out and move in with me, and literally started crying over him immediately, and ran back to him a few hours later, taking my kids from me a second time. my 5 year old
all but had a panic attack when that happened. "
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In retrospect, I guess you should have prepared better for this, and handled some things better. I mean, things were going to get shitty regardless of your actions, but the lease, IRS stuff and her taking all your shit just seems something you could have taken care of with a clear mind. Same with losing the better job like you did. Not that it helps now and your ex-wife sounds like a fucktard, but perhaps you two should have done things like rational adults. I'd guess even your ex-wife from hell would have agreed since it'd be best for your kids if everyone left with their shit intact.


You're just going to have to hang in there, life will probably get easier once you just suck it up for a while and get rid of the IRS and court money owed. Whatever you do, deal with her as little as possible like others suggested. That shit is bad news.


Good luck getting it all together either way, you're still a newb faggot in war2 but not even newbies deserve this...

That sucks dude, the good news is you still got 2 kids that love you and all of your other problems seem to be stemming from the fact that you have a shitty job. If I were you, I'd work on getting a better job - or seeing if your government offers any kind of unemployment back to school programs, when you're in school you're usually shielded from a lot of government bullshit.

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" We tried to reconcile a month or so ago, and she even came so far as to move out and move in with me, and literally started crying over him immediately, and ran back to him a few hours later, taking my kids from me a second time. my 5 year old
all but had a panic attack when that happened. "

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A few things for you allstar. 1, don't get back with that whore or else you'll deserve worse. 2, her treachery will come back on her head if you do the right thing and just keep working and doing your job as a father to the best of your ability. 3, play war2 more than ever to avoid reality.

See your kids when you can, be as good a father as you can given the circumstances, and work on bringing yourself up. Things could always be better or worse- I'm sure things could have been better before all this happened - you'll find a new status quo that you can be happy with. Most children have divorced / split up parents, they will be ok. They need you to be strong.
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Originally posted by BanMe
See your kids when you can, be as good a father as you can given the circumstances, and work on bringing yourself up. Things could always be better or worse- I'm sure things could have been better before all this happened - you'll find a new status quo that you can be happy with. Most children have divorced / split up parents, they will be ok. They need you to be strong.

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Originally posted by Picka_materina
People do very strange things when they're desperate.

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After reading the story I didn't think anyone would be enough of a dick to flame allstar in this thread. I guess I underestimated the War II Forums.


Shitty situation though allstar. I hope things get better for you.

AND HE WAS RAPED TO RETIREMENT FROM WAR2. WHAT IS THE WORLD COMING TO!?!?

we've only heard your side of it but that's a lot of hurt to inflict on her husband and children just because she's hot for some dude. love & passion are pretty capricious and powerful i guess but jeez, sounds selfish and cheating is lame :/ sorry dude

First and foremost if he knew she was married he needs to be leveled to settle the score. Then get your slut ex wife out of your life and as someone said earlier be the best father you can be, when you can be. Aslong as you're there for your kids theyll repay you 10000x when they are older
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rofl now my car wont start and im late for work


yay